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The moment I knew I would spend my life with Lisa.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, February 2009 source ↗
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On my wedding day.
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The summer of 1997. My husband, who is an American, gave up everything to come and live with me in Edinburgh when we were students, and we were so skint but we had so much fun.
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My belief that saying it makes it happen.
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