Adam Kay
British comedy writer, author, youtuber, comedian and former physician
Self-destruction.
Which trait do you most dislike in yourself?
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What is the worst thing anyone has said to you?
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What happens when we die?
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Which moment embarrassed you most?
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What does love feel like?
Relationships
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What has been your biggest disappointment?
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Originally asked
The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
The Guardian's The Q&A has retained this Proust-derived prompt from at least 2007 through 2026, and ABC independently put it to the Obamas in 2011.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
I try too hard not to get things wrong.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 January 2024 source ↗
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Our friends are sad and miss us for a bit but, hopefully, they find other people at the party.
I once walked up to Harriet Walter while she was having lunch on her own because I thought I knew her, and then when I got up to the table I realised I didn’t know her, I just recognised her because she was Harriet Walter.
Knowledge seeping into adventure, with a thin layer of giddiness, hysterical laughter and loss of control.
Not marrying the person I wanted to marry, but now I think it’s probably good that I didn’t.
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