It’s a toss-up between a tarantula crawling on me and dying alone.
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
The exact prompt is fixed in Vanity Fair's Proust Questionnaire and independently sustained in The Guardian's The Q&A over multiple decades.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
It used to be loneliness, and it might still be.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 4 January 2025 source ↗
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Helena Bonham Carter
Actor
The loss of anything, be it a loved one or a faculty—my sight, hearing, or mind.
Paul McKenna
British hypnotist and TV personality
My wife dying. I wouldn’t know how to go on.
Food in a sink drain.
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Every morning when I go into our three-year-old’s room. He’s so happy to see you, it’s a moment of heaven.
Absolutely none. I’ve had three run-ups at Captain Corelli’s Mandolin and I conclude it must be boring because I’ve never finished it.
As someone who was kind.
My wife, just in case I’ve done something wrong.
Like becoming warm after you’ve been cold.
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