Tuppence Middleton: How would you describe what love feels like to you? — FLAPSS

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How would you describe what love feels like to you?

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Tuppence Middleton

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A perfect cup of coffee – warm, bittersweet, anxiety-inducing and delicious.

The Q&A, The Guardian, 9 May 2026 source ↗

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Bertie Carvel British actor

A continuous in-breath.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 30 October 2021 source ↗

A mix – safety to be yourself, acceptance, a feeling of peace and reliance, but also challenge, whether that’s intellectual or emotional.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 29 August 2026 source ↗

When you’re younger you confuse love with chaos and passion and, as I’ve gotten older, I realise that love is the opposite: it’s peace and it feels safe, like home.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 February 2024 source ↗

Cressida Cowell British writer

Warm and golden, and it smells delicious.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 19 September 2020 source ↗

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Congratulating Dua Lipa on managing to release a single in such a tough industry, because I thought she was a struggling indie artist. I Googled her the next day and realised that she has 88 million followers.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 9 May 2026 source ↗

Question Who alive today do you admire most, and what draws you to them? Values & belief

Anyone who can pick up a house spider with their bare hands.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 9 May 2026 source ↗

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