Lily Tomlin
Comedian and actor
That they’re my friends. I trust them and they trust me.
What do you value most in your friends?
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Which living person do you most admire, and why?
Values & belief
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How close have you come to death?
Death & what remains
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Are you afraid of death?
Death & what remains
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What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Identity & self
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When were you happiest?
Time & hindsight
Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
That they’re kind, trustworthy, smart, and can hear and communicate and aren’t afraid to do so.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 August 2013 source ↗
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Honesty, trustworthiness, and a deep understanding of emotions.
Sally Mann
Photographer
Knowing when to show up and when to go home.
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When I was an idiot high school student, as opposed to being an idiot adult, I used to drive very fast.
I don’t think so! You can’t really know that until the moment of your death, at which point you will probably not be afraid because you won’t be there. I have a very old friend who called me last year to say, “Okay I am done. I am not fighting this anymore. I am checking out. I am calling to say goodbye because I am not really conscious most of the time. I am cutting off the pain killers.” He seemed okay. That was not the moment of his death, but it was within two or three days.
Watching seeds grow in the greenhouse. Drawing or reading or cooking.
Probably when our children were small, which is not to say I am unhappy now.
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