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That they’re kind, trustworthy, smart, and can hear and communicate and aren’t afraid to do so.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 August 2013 source ↗
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Which quality in your friends matters most to you?Originally asked
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Availability. Just kidding. Character.
Smarts, kindness, decency, honesty, integrity, humor. Really do love a good cook! Our group of friends has been friends for a long time.
Forbearance with my chronic tardiness.
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I don’t think so! You can’t really know that until the moment of your death, at which point you will probably not be afraid because you won’t be there. I have a very old friend who called me last year to say, “Okay I am done. I am not fighting this anymore. I am checking out. I am calling to say goodbye because I am not really conscious most of the time. I am cutting off the pain killers.” He seemed okay. That was not the moment of his death, but it was within two or three days.
Probably when our children were small, which is not to say I am unhappy now.
I admire the mother of my children a great deal, because she’s interesting, smart and funny.
When I was an idiot high school student, as opposed to being an idiot adult, I used to drive very fast.
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