Selfishness—people who don’t care about others or their feelings and will do or say anything as long as they get what they want.
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What is the trait you most deplore in others?
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People who speak with heavy American accents. I can barely understand them. No, seriously, dishonesty.
Ed Harris
American actor and director
Greed and stupidity.
Erin O'Connor
English model
Unnecessary judgment.
John Waters
American filmmaker
Judgmental without investigation.
Joseph Fiennes
English actor
Picking their nose and eating it.
Alison Steadman
British actress
Lack of understanding and tolerance.
Mike Skinner
English rapper
People who judge other people's actions on their own thought process.
David Hasselhoff
American actor, singer, and television personality
Rudeness and racism.
Anthony Hopkins
Welsh actor
Freeloaders with a sense of entitlement.
To be dishonest. Sometimes people have to be dishonest in order not to hurt, but if someone is basically dishonest, that is a different matter.
Actually, I dislike dealing with schedules and logistics—mine and others’.
Omid Djalili
British stand-up comedian and actor
Vindictiveness and spite.
Serially telling endless boring jokes and sexism and racism and homophobia (they often go together).
Passive aggression.
People who are proud of their ignorance.
Jerry Lewis
American comedian, actor and filmmaker
No sense of humor.
Terry Gross
Radio interviewer
The inability to stop talking about themselves when they’re not being interviewed.
Complacent stupidity.
Dolly Parton
American singer-songwriter, actress and businesswoman
Dishonesty and being late for appointments.
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