Shonda Rhimes: What is the trait you most deplore in others?

The question

Originally asked

The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A

A verbatim standing question in The Guardian's rotating Q&A questionnaire, documented across respondents and years.

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Shonda Rhimes

Recorded said elsewhere, not written here

People who feed off of their misery. The whiners and complainers.

Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, October 2017 source ↗

Others on this question

People not remembering who I am.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 May 2025 source ↗

To be dishonest. Sometimes people have to be dishonest in order not to hurt, but if someone is basically dishonest, that is a different matter.

Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, March 2010 source ↗

Rafael Nadal Spanish professional tennis player, 2001–2024

Selfishness and no respect for the others.

Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, October 2010 source ↗

Pettiness, arrogance, boorishness.

Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, June 2013 source ↗

Obama. He is a man of integrity and nobody seems to have integrity these days.

Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, October 2017 source ↗

Warm chocolate cake, a gorgeous fire, and Idris Elba. Also, world peace.

Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 4 October 2017 source ↗

My ability to make everything about me.

Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, October 2017 source ↗

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