Knowing when to show up and when to go home.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 2 March 2018 source ↗
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Which quality in your friends matters most to you?Originally asked
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View all 65 →Being able to share a confidence.
Terry Gross
Radio interviewer
Their willingness to put up with my endless explanations about why I can’t see them because I’m under deadline.
A love of laughter and a shared belief that life is a dream.
Rita Moreno
Actor, singer and dancer
That they don’t give a tinker’s damn about my celebrity.
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View profile →Reading. And, in particular, reading on the deck of the cabin while my children play in the river below.
Quickly, without warning, maybe even in my sleep, and while we're putting in requests: before I lose my mind and my ability to gallop across the countryside on horseback.
On the island of Bequia—one summer, out of the blue, a benefactor (thank you, Charlene) flew our entire family there and put us up in a cliffside house that was a weird mixture of Gaudí and Fred Flintstone and where we went to sleep at eight and got up at five. In between we read, swam, hiked, and unknowingly enjoyed the last moment before the irrevocable shear of adolescence set in.
The loss of a child.
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