Their willingness to put up with my endless explanations about why I can’t see them because I’m under deadline.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 September 2012 source ↗
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Which quality in your friends matters most to you?Originally asked
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A love of laughter and a shared belief that life is a dream.
That they can pick up where we left off.
They’ll help me dump a body off the turnpike.
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A glass of wine, a good dinner with my husband, and a day ahead of me without a deadline is close enough.
Living with severe chronic pain, or forgetting the name of the person I’m interviewing.
The inability to stop talking about themselves when they’re not being interviewed.
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