Their willingness to put up with my endless explanations about why I can’t see them because I’m under deadline.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 September 2012 source ↗
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Which quality in your friends matters most to you?Originally asked
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View all 65 →Forbearance with my chronic tardiness.
Their loving forbearance.
Their humor and that they are smarter than I, but not by too much.
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Loyalty. Not fawning, but a loyalty based on our shared love and history that fosters compassion and forgiveness.
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The inability to stop talking about themselves when they’re not being interviewed.
A glass of wine, a good dinner with my husband, and a day ahead of me without a deadline is close enough.
Living with severe chronic pain, or forgetting the name of the person I’m interviewing.
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