The question
What is the trait you most deplore in others?Originally asked
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Ignorance and unwillingness to learn.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 25 October 2025 source ↗
Jealousy. It’s the thief of joy.
Lack of empathy.
People who punch down.
I have a hard time with people who are manipulative.
I cry every day. Sometimes out of frustration. I do grieve my mum, so I allow the grief to sit until it’s not there any more.
That I don’t give myself enough credit.
I think we live on in people’s memories until those memories go.
When I was younger, I signed up to a job agency and thought I would be doing secretarial work, but they assigned me to clean toilets in a factory in Oldham.
If somebody doesn’t want to understand or see you that’s on them. You don’t have to carry that with you.
Nothing. I’m curious how things will evolve.
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