The question
What trait do you most dislike in other people?Originally asked
The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
A verbatim standing question in The Guardian's rotating Q&A questionnaire, documented across respondents and years.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
An inability to see the other side.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 4 July 2026 source ↗
Weakness – not to be confused with sensitivity, which is a superpower.
Passive aggression.
Looking down at other people. I was brought up to treat people as you treat yourself, with respect. The people you meet on the way up are the people you meet on the way down.
Lying, unreliability.
We watch over those we love.
My parents died within four days of each other. I was engulfed as I ran from one bedside to another.
I can always see two points of view, which makes it hard to have a row.
For the words to fly from my fingers as just occasionally they do.
Safety or alarm, I can never decide which.
Talking about the hardships of my mother’s life – she would not approve.
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