Both my grandmother and my mother got dementia. My grandmother has passed away. My mother is in a home. Dementia is my biggest fear because it robs you of the very thing that makes life special.
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Which moment embarrassed you most?
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Aside from a property, what is the most expensive thing you have bought?
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What would you like to be remembered for?
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Which trait do you most dislike in yourself?
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What happens when we die?
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What is the trait you most deplore in others?
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
The exact prompt is fixed in Vanity Fair's Proust Questionnaire and independently sustained in The Guardian's The Q&A over multiple decades.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Dying too young, and spiders.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 2 August 2025 source ↗
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The current occupant of the White House.
I don’t want to be lost and burn in hell.
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A hand-painted beaded dress from New York. It weighs about 16lb and cost me £4,000, 30 years ago.
For bringing positivity to people.
I don’t say that I’m perfect but there’s nothing that I deplore.
We drift off to a beautiful place where we live a better, fuller life than what we’ve left.
People who aren’t kind enough.
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