Insensitivity. Indifference about what is right or wrong. Indifference about justice.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Snobbishness, superiority, condescension.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 30 May 2026 source ↗
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Ghosting, where you are mid-conversation with someone and they disappear off the face of the planet.
Elmore Leonard
Novelist and screenwriter
Guys who use the word “snot.”
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People singing in the street.
Catastrophising.
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