Peter Sarsgaard: Who deserves an apology from you, and for what? — FLAPSS

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Who deserves an apology from you, and for what?

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Peter Sarsgaard

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Every woman I dated before I met my wife, because I think I convinced too many people that they were the one, and they were not the one.

The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

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Alison Steadman British actress

I didn't go to a retirement party once for someone who had been special to me and he died shortly after.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 17 January 2009 source ↗

John Waters American filmmaker

To my teachers in high school - that I didn't punch them in the mouth for discouraging all my interests.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 13 September 2008 source ↗

Nikki Amuka-Bird

Anyone whose party I said I’d go to and didn’t turn up. I can get quite socially anxious at times.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 May 2025 source ↗

Charles Dance British actor

My ex-wife, for the way I behaved towards the end of our marriage.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 30 November 2024 source ↗

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Question What is the harshest thing anyone has said to you? Failure & regret

When I was first acting, in college, a relative came and saw me in Hedda Gabler and she said: “Look in the mirror, you’re not an actor. An actor looks like Mel Gibson.”

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

Question What thought won't let you sleep? Daily life

The Middle East crisis.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

Question When were you most embarrassed? Failure & regret

I was doing The Seagull with Carey Mulligan and Kristin Scott Thomas on Broadway. I walked out on stage and looked at Carey and said: “I’ve no idea what to say.” It was pretty deep into the run and it took me by surprise.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

Question What one change would most improve the quality of your daily life? Daily life

It would improve the quality of all of our lives if we just got rid of all unessential vehicles in New York City.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

Question How would you sum yourself up in three words? Identity & self

Nurturing, musical, uncompromising.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

Question What is the worst job you have ever had? Craft & work

Caddying for really rich people at this country club in Connecticut when I was a teenager. They would talk like I wasn’t there so I would hear all about their lives, their affairs and their stupidity, and yet I couldn’t say anything.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

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