We are not here for long – try not to take everything too seriously.
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We are too often advised to live life to the fullest. That’s too much pressure. The key is to find joy and poignancy in the quiet and mundane. Life is lived between the so-called big moments.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 August 2024 source ↗
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Give, give, give. The more you give, the happier you are.
John Simm
English musician and actor
Live in the moment. Enjoy life because time cruelly speeds up as you get older and becomes scarily finite.
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I worked a janitorial job, cleaning university dormitories after students had gone home for the summer. You can’t imagine the condition some of those rooms were in. They could have doubled as sets for a slasher film.
I was followed by a mob of fans when I was doing a photoshoot in Paris. When I signed autographs for them during a break, one remarked: “Who the fuck is Harlan Coben? I told you it wasn’t Bruce Willis.”
With a wistful smile.
A white-hot explosion that turns into a comforting warmth.
I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but if I could go back and fix the mistake, I wouldn’t be here.
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