The more you face shame and stare it in the eyes and talk about it, the less potent it is.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
The more you face shame and stare it in the eyes and talk about it, the less potent it is.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗
To stay in the moment and live each day to the maximum. You never know when it’s going to be taken away.
Know the things you are responsible for and the things you aren’t.
Perspective. I used to zoom in and it would be all catastrophic, now I zoom out and get a bit of perspective.
I remember the moment when my overwhelming uneasiness yielded. Seven words from Samuel Beckett, a writer I’ve not even read that well, learned long ago as an undergraduate, began to repeat in my head, and the seemingly impassable sea of uncertainty parted: “I can’t go on. I’ll go on.” I took a step forward, repeating the phrase over and over: “I can’t go on. I’ll go on.” And then, at some point, I was through.
Eager to learn.
I assumed that once I reached some level of achievement, I would feel fixed.
Picking myself back up after very tricky times and trying again.
An air steward, because I loved airports. I wrote a letter to British Airways when I was seven and I’ve got the reply in the loft, which says, “You’re a bit young at seven but do stay in touch.” I was that kind of kid who was eager to start the ball rolling.
People have said, “I wish you would die.” That’s the stark truth of being in the public eye – people dehumanise you and say ghastly things.
On radio, I once said “anal” instead of “angel”.
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