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What lesson has mattered most in your life?

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Fearne Cotton

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The more you face shame and stare it in the eyes and talk about it, the less potent it is.

The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

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Felicity Jones British actress

Things, situations, people evolve constantly. Nothing is static.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 27 May 2023 source ↗

George H. W. Bush 41st President of the United States, 1989–1993

It's family, and it's faith, and it's friends. I would tell them that. Don't forget that. In your brilliance, don't turn your back on your friends. Don't think you're entitled to something because you're smarter than the next guy.

Recorded Academy of Achievement interview, Williamsburg, Virginia, 2 June 1995 source ↗

Chiwetel Ejiofor English actor

To do the very best you can and then let it go.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 19 October 2024 source ↗

Showing up is at least 90% of it.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 11 April 2026 source ↗

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Question When were you most embarrassed? Failure & regret

On radio, I once said “anal” instead of “angel”.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

Question Which trait in yourself do you like least? Identity & self

Impatience. I’m not very good at waiting around or dealing with things that aren’t moving at a pace that I want them to.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

Question What disappointment has stayed with you longest? Failure & regret

I assumed that once I reached some level of achievement, I would feel fixed.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

Question What is the harshest thing anyone has said to you? Failure & regret

People have said, “I wish you would die.” That’s the stark truth of being in the public eye – people dehumanise you and say ghastly things.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

Question As a child, what career or life did you imagine for yourself? Identity & self

An air steward, because I loved airports. I wrote a letter to British Airways when I was seven and I’ve got the reply in the loft, which says, “You’re a bit young at seven but do stay in touch.” I was that kind of kid who was eager to start the ball rolling.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

Question What trait do you most dislike in other people? Values & belief

Superiority. I shrink when I’m around people who act superior, whether it’s due to authority or intellect. I almost become mute.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

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