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Someone once saw me in a play and said that I was disgusting.
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View all 122 →I was thrown out of a club by bouncers when I walked into somebody and told them that I was registered blind. They said: “Don’t give a fuck – you don’t belong in here.” As a straight white man, it gives you a taste of what other people have to contend with.
I don’t think you could print it, it’s so bad.
People give me a hard time about my hats. Over Christmas, this drunk woman shouted something about me having a shit hat because I had a red beanie on. Last week at a party, someone gave me a hard time for wearing a cap. I just think about melting ice caps when this happens.
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If I needed less sleep.
An actor. I watched a lot of TV because we lived in the countryside and the weather was so bad.
I started my career not getting jobs, but then you learn that 95% of this job is not getting jobs, and you just have to make peace with it.
My mother, because when I’m stressed, I can be really horrible to her.
A wedding ring.
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