Not being able to have a baby for two and a half years. Lots of people say it made me a better person; I think it made me worse. You go to a very dark place with your friends because they are having kids, and you want to be happy for them but you’re not.
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My friend Fritha Goodey wouldn’t have committed suicide.
I wouldn’t have done the naked centrefold in Cosmopolitan magazine in 1972.
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As not being a total bollix.
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