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I love you but I hate your lifestyle.
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“You were amazing in Game of Thrones.” I say it’s the worst thing – it’s also the best!
“Next! We’re looking for somebody else.”
When I was growing up, my mother would accuse me of showing off. That’s the most shaming, humbling, horrible thing. What was I doing? Showing off!
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View profile →To kids I bullied in school. I have apologised and I will continue to. To repay those things karmically, I will watch my kids’ hearts like a hawk for signs of hardening or any distortions of empathy that they might develop.
Sacrifice the self and you will gain it. Serve the self and you will lose it.
I cried last week after talking about marriage equality with my daughters. My oldest let slip that she believed that if the supreme court overturned Obergefell, she wouldn’t have parents any more. I felt angry with my country and ashamed that I didn’t consider the possibility that she might think that.
Earnest, driven, Gemini.
Human, evolving and faithful.
I’m the happiest right now. I can see that I’m in a kind of sweet spot: my parents are alive, my kids are little, my wife is hot and my body doesn’t hurt.
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