The people I never thanked for what they selflessly gave me in my career; when I was younger I just took it for granted.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 25 July 2020 source ↗
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David Arquette
American actor, producer, & former professional wrestler
My daughter, Coco, because divorce is so difficult.
Charlotte Rampling
English actress
I’ve said sorry to the people I have to say sorry to.
Back in the day, when comedy was crueller, my monologues were full of terrible jokes about people, and you can’t apologise because then you’re asking people to forgive you. Your punishment is to walk around knowing you said these horrible things.
Bill Bailey
Comedian and musician
My parents, for not pursuing an academic career.
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On a cosmetics production line. I walked out after half a day.
When I met my husband, David, in 2006, on Dating Direct.
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I cried after I won the Booker.
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