My wedding day, and when my children were first placed in my arms.
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Asked in 52 of the 131 consecutive instalments of The Guardian's The Q&A harvested on 2026-08-29.
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Every time one of my kids was born and I knew that they were healthy.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 23 January 2016 source ↗
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When I met [my wife] Sandra. I was coming up 17. We met at the Two Puddings, a dance hall in Stratford.
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When my husband and I first said we loved each other, in our student flat in Cambridge.
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My late wife – she died of cancer. We tried everything we could do to save her. I wish that I could have done more and that I could have been with her at the moment she passed away. I couldn’t be in that room, because I knew it would be so devastating that I wouldn’t be able to take care of the kids after.
A meal alfresco with people I love.
I am always disappointed in myself. I always feel that I haven’t achieved enough, or been as good a parent as I could be.
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Losing one of my children, as there is no greater loss.
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