Entitlement or a lack of manners. Though I find they often flock together.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Enough with the constant smiling.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, July 2023 source ↗
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