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When you need counsel, who is the first person you call?

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Vogue, to one guest at a time, on camera, 73 Questions

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Norman Schwarzkopf

United States Army general; commander of coalition forces in the 1991 Gulf War

Recorded said elsewhere, not written here
My wife, my children, my friends, myself. I’m my own strongest critic. I am much tougher on myself than anybody I know, consistently.

Academy of Achievement interview, Las Vegas, Nevada, 26 June 1992 source ↗

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Francis Collins American physician-scientist
I surround myself with brilliant people who are wise and whose advice I can lean on at every possible moment. The Genome Project is a wonderful team effort. It’s not my project, this is a project that involves close to 1,000 scientists at institutions all over the world. The United States is taking a larger role than any other country, but many other countries are participating. In the U.S. we have a large number of genome centers. We have experts in almost every area. I have advisors who are willing to give up their time and energy to making sure we get there responsibly. It is a heavy load of responsibility, but I can share that load with people who are every bit as committed to the future of this endeavor as I am.
Recorded Academy of Achievement, Academy of Achievement interview, Bethesda, Maryland, 1 April 2000 source ↗
Gab Bois Artist
Still, I do have people I turn to before that point… I’ll send my ideas or images to a friends group chat or I ask my boyfriend, you know? Also, my dad has always been such an important figure in my life, and still is. He’s probably the most knowledgeable person I know.
Recorded The Talks, 9 March 2022 source ↗
Joachim Trier Film director
Every time I call my wife or my friends or my mother or whoever and I say, “I fucked it up this time,” and then at the end of it, I feel okay. I resolved what I can do with this.
Recorded The Talks, 1 April 2026 source ↗
Maya Angelou Poet, memoirist and civil rights activist
Try to retain some of the finest parts of the African American culture, some of the sweetest parts. The fact that people kind of drop their voices and become almost musical when they talk to a friend, or to a preacher, or to a teacher. They say, “Hey! How you doin’?” Remember that. Keep the melody in your mind and in your spirit. It will keep you tender in the tough times, which is very important.
Recorded Academy of Achievement, Academy of Achievement interview, Winston-Salem, North Carolina, 1 April 2000 source ↗

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