Safety or alarm, I can never decide which.
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I’ve learned that true love shouldn’t be complicated. It’s the safety and freedom to be seen and celebrated for who you truly are.
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Safe and peaceful. It gives you a sense of ease.
Warm and embracing.
Like it’s worth being alive.
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