If somebody doesn’t want to understand or see you that’s on them. You don’t have to carry that with you.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
That materialistic things will not make you happy.
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Discipline. Also to have a goal, however small and whatever it may be.
It’s all a gift. So be grateful for every day.
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View profile →Walsall fans. I wanted to be a good manager but I was really bad with drink and gambling at the time. I should have done better.
Nothing, because it’s up to me how I feel. I’ve been a millionaire three times and I still wanted to kill myself.
Thirty-odd years ago I bought a black pinstripe suit which I thought was £900. But when I went to pay that was just the jacket – the trousers and waistcoat were extra. I didn’t have the balls to put anything back. I dread to think how much it cost me in the end.
On holiday in Orlando with my wife, Kate, and kids just before lockdown. I wasn’t drinking or gambling. I was so happy, so at peace with myself – I’d been searching for that for many a year.
For me, love is working through things when it’s not going well.
Going back to addiction.
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