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Walsall fans. I wanted to be a good manager but I was really bad with drink and gambling at the time. I should have done better.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 14 January 2023 source ↗
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Anyone I slept with before the age of 27, because I was a selfish, cold-ass bitch.
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Any writer who thinks I’ve ruined their work in performance.
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