Most of the people I dated between 23 and 33. It feels crazy to me that I ever thought that I could be anyone’s girlfriend before I figured out the things I’ve now figured out.
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I would like the poem Cherish by Raymond Carver. It was read by my dad at my wedding, and is my absolute favourite.
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