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Growing up as a gay boy in a small town, you get used to people saying bad things pretty quickly.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 April 2023 source ↗
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What is the harshest thing anyone has said to you?Originally asked
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I’ll never amount to anything. Who? He was my rival at dance school. It hurt and is something that I’ve always had in the back of my head to defy.
“And for you, sir?” It happens a lot.
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That I did everything I had to and I never gave up!
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Meanness and lying.
Do you have 10 pages? Once, I was dancing in a costume that was like a corset. During a move, the corset ripped and exploded, and I had to carry on doing the number practically in my jockstrap.
Follow your dream and never give up, because it’s not over until the fat lady sings. Ride the adventure!
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