The question
What is the trait you most deplore in others?Originally asked
The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
A verbatim standing question in The Guardian's rotating Q&A questionnaire, documented across respondents and years.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
People who can’t wait to argue.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 29 November 2025 source ↗
I wanted to have one part of my social media that was just for me to post pictures. If you like it, you can like it. If not, I don't have to know that you don't like it because people have a lot of opinions, which is fine, but I think there's a difference between having an opinion and just being mean for no reason.
After the third time someone’s late, we can’t be friends any more.
Lack of empathy and compassion.
Meanness and lying.
Julie Hesmondhalgh – she’s the kindest, brightest, most truthful woman. She’s so talented, works hard, cares about the right things, puts her energy in the right places. I adore her.
I was recently made to feel that it’s my mental health that’s the problem and not the system.
My internalised misogyny that still manages to cloud some of my thinking.
I never finished The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir.
Most of the people I dated between 23 and 33. It feels crazy to me that I ever thought that I could be anyone’s girlfriend before I figured out the things I’ve now figured out.
I’d have gone solo sooner.
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