To my wife Saadiya, for interrupting too many evenings, weekends and family holidays with work.

My late wife – she died of cancer. We tried everything we could do to save her. I wish that I could have done more and that I could have been with her at the moment she passed away. I couldn’t be in that room, because I knew it would be so devastating that I wouldn’t be able to take care of the kids after.

To anyone I have lost touch with. It happened purely by accident as life took over.

I pulled a chair away from a girl who was just about to sit down on our second day of primary school. She farted when she hit the floor and everyone laughed.

Before transitioning, I had a severe eating disorder. The doctor said, “Your body’s shutting down and if you don’t improve your mental and physical wellbeing, you’ll die.” Shortly after that, I started transitioning medically and my eating disorder resolved.

The Great Gatsby.

Cancel culture: getting stuck on the discourse rather than looking at the system.

Passionate, loving, driven.

Gender-affirming surgery. Contrary to popular belief, it’s not widely available on the NHS and a lot of it you have to pay for yourself.

At university, I worked at a hotel in housekeeping. We saw so many weird things in people’s rooms. Guests would leave sex and party stuff behind!