Aggression. Anger. Rudeness. Intolerance. Lack of understanding. Pretty much your average day on X.
What is the trait you most deplore in others?
Question
Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?
Failure & regret
Question
What happens when we die?
Death & what remains
Question
When were you happiest?
Time & hindsight
Question
What is the worst job you have done?
Craft & work
Question
How close have you come to death?
Death & what remains
Question
Which trait do you most dislike in yourself?
Identity & self
Originally asked
The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
A verbatim standing question in The Guardian's rotating Q&A questionnaire, documented across respondents and years.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
An inability to be authentic.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 25 April 2026 source ↗
Others on this question
View all 202 →Greed, lack of empathy. Same thing.
Fay Ripley
English actress, television presenter, cookbook author
Being judgmental – how dare they!
Julian Lennon
English musician, photographer, and philanthropist
Ghosting, where you are mid-conversation with someone and they disappear off the face of the planet.
More from Meghann Fahy
View profile →To myself for diminishing my gut feelings until quite recently.
Being alive on Earth is challenging and I like to believe that whatever happens after is filled with peace and ease.
When I realised that I could get myself through anything that came my way.
I’ve never really had a horrible job – I liked working at restaurants and being a nanny when I wasn’t acting.
A blood clot in my artery when I was 23.
My tendency to be avoidant.
More on values & belief
- Which living person do you most admire, and why? 410 answers
- What is something everyone in your world agrees about that you think is wrong? 82 answers
- What are you unwilling to optimise? 33 answers
- What have you come to understand about what it means to be human? 21 answers
- What do you need to believe in order to get through the day? 16 answers
- What important truth do very few people agree with you on? 15 answers
Also answered this
Christian Louboutin, Mike Wallace, Richard Feynman, Alex Lawther, Nick Frost, Seth Rogen
Search the directory for somebody in particular.
Explore further
- All values & belief questions
- The The Q&A questionnaire — 25 questions from the same format
- Explore the archive — by field, age, era, and subject