You reach a certain point in life and suddenly know a lot of dead people, and I’ve noticed you don’t stop getting to know people who are dead. Those relationships continue and I like that.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Our friends are sad and miss us for a bit but, hopefully, they find other people at the party.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 January 2024 source ↗
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I like to think that my friends, my auntie and my mum are up there having a big party and that I could join them.
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No. I mean, it depends on how you look at it. In the sense that we all have a piece of cosmic dust in us from the beginning – The Big Bang – then yes. But no, I don’t believe in heaven or hell.
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Being lost and no one wanting to find me.
Not marrying the person I wanted to marry, but now I think it’s probably good that I didn’t.
To believe my eyes and not my ears.
Knowledge seeping into adventure, with a thin layer of giddiness, hysterical laughter and loss of control.
Another actress once said to me, “I’ve told you huge lies to make you feel good about yourself.” I’m not going to say who.
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