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To lose my fourth baby.
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Maya Jama
British television and radio presenter
Probably missing out on roles I really, really wanted, but I’m a big believer that if it’s for you, you’ll have it. So those clearly weren’t for me.
Lena Headey
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Realising that people are not always who they claim to be.
Engelbert Humperdinck
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Not understanding the business side of my career enough. I could have probably been much wealthier than I am.
Jacqueline Wilson
English novelist
When I was in my 30s and taped myself singing. I always thought I had quite a sweet voice – my voice is terrible, I can’t hold a note.
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I would very, very much like to say sorry to my mother, for all the times I told her I hadn’t got the time to talk.
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