My kids navigating the world as it is today – and daddy longlegs.
What is your greatest fear?
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Which moment embarrassed you most?
Failure & regret
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How would you describe yourself in three words?
Identity & self
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What scares you about getting older?
Time & hindsight
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What is the trait you most deplore in others?
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What is the worst thing anyone has said to you?
Failure & regret
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Aside from a property, what is the most expensive thing you have bought?
Money & investment
Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
The exact prompt is fixed in Vanity Fair's Proust Questionnaire and independently sustained in The Guardian's The Q&A over multiple decades.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
I’m afraid of the dark.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 1 November 2025 source ↗
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Charlotte Rampling
English actress
To die before I know certain things.
That we’re all going to hell in a handcart and Trump is driving.
Scott Mills
English radio DJ and television presenter
Heights. For Children in Need, I had to abseil off the Orbit in the Olympic Park. It was the most terrifying thing I’ve done.
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View profile →I was in Oliver! when I was 10 and I peed myself on stage in front of however many people the Palladium holds. It was the stuff of nightmares.
Complicated, chaotic, messy.
Seeing my kids getting older scares me.
People who aren’t polite.
“You’re not in Busted any more.” I successfully auditioned to be in Busted and then a couple of days later I got a phone call to say that I was no longer needed as they were going to keep it as the three of them. But it ended up being OK.
A pair of Back to the Future shoes. They were auctioned off for Michael J Fox’s Parkinson’s charity, so I bid and I won. I am a huge fan of the films and if there was ever a pair of shoes I should own, it was those.
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