My kids. I think if you don’t want to say sorry to your kids you’ve been an appalling parent.
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If you could edit your past, what would you change?
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There wasn’t a lot of bullying at my school, but there was a fair amount of ragging – and I knew which side I wanted to be on. I’d say sorry to anyone who felt picked on.
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Vick Hope
British television and radio presenter
My younger self. I told myself so often that I was not good enough, that I was not smart enough, that I was not interesting enough, that I was boring and ugly. I wasn’t kind to my body, and I did and said things to myself that I would never do or say to a friend.
My children, because I spent the majority of their youth away from them as I’m the breadwinner and I had to pay the bills.
Marian Keyes
Irish writer
The people I worked with when I was in the final two years of my drinking.
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View profile →In my teens, an accountant. In my 20s, either a rock star or a novelist.
I’d give myself some fashion sense.
Fondly and down the centuries. I think partly what drives writers to write is the yearning for immortality.
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