James Norton
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My 13-year-old self, for all the resentment.
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My first wife, because I left her.
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Romesh Ranganathan
English actor and comedian
When I was 17 I launched into a rant at my dad about what I thought of him. We never spoke about it again and then he passed away. I would love to say sorry to him.
Canadians are trained to say sorry to almost everything and everyone.
Lucy Worsley
English historian
To my brother. When he was a small boy, I made him urinate on an electric fence to see if liquid could really transmit electricity.
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I cry all the time in front of the telly. I was doing Gogglebox with Julian Clary recently and I cried watching The Piano.
I was about six years old in a market square in Italy and my dad said, “Oh, those shorts would look perfect on you.” So he whipped my trousers off and I hadn’t got any knickers on.
Nothing at all.
When they don’t tell the truth.
Not playing James Bond.
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