As someone who tried, who had dignity, and stuck to what she believed in despite the storms.
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Originally asked
Vogue, to one guest at a time, on camera, 73 Questions
A recurring legacy prompt in Vogue's 73 Questions, appearing with only minor wording changes.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
As a perfectly decent bloke.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 22 August 2026 source ↗
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As an accomplished dancer and tennis player, because I do neither, so my loved ones would be very confused.
Finally nailing being on time.
Kind, thoughtful and gave damn good advice.
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That’s the 64-million-dollar question.
I was about six years old in a market square in Italy and my dad said, “Oh, those shorts would look perfect on you.” So he whipped my trousers off and I hadn’t got any knickers on.
Not playing James Bond.
My first wife, because I left her.
When they don’t tell the truth.
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