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Connection, warmth, somebody you can trust and, quite happily, say nothing to.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 27 December 2025 source ↗
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Right now, terrifying.
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A warm sunny day. You get this bubble around you and, all of a sudden, problems are halved.
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To have made people healthier and happier.
Optimistic, nurturing, enquiring.
Time blindness.
Six months ago, I decided to move house. I got a skip, cleared everything out and then thought: “Why am I doing this?” So I remained, and I’m glad I did.
A garden chair from the Chelsea flower show. It was almost the price of a small crappy car.
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