So many. I have been very cowardly in the past, and it came across as me not caring, when the opposite was true.
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My mother, because I didn’t appreciate until after she’d gone that she was a vulnerable human being. I just expected her to know everything and be everything.
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Neil Gaiman
Author of fiction, comics and screenplays
My soon-to-be ex-wife, Amanda. I wish I’d been able to do whatever would have been necessary all the way back to keep us as a unit. Probably the worst thing I did was not tell her how miserable I was, certain that I could turn this around somehow.
Lionel Shriver
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He knows who he is. I’ve apologised. I wish it made more difference.
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Judith Clark, on whom I based my character in the prison trilogy. She has served over 35 years and turned herself around. She is an inspiration.
I would never have gone on a diet. I would go back with the knowledge that not being perfect is fine.
I spent £600 on Rudolf Nureyev’s ballet shoes after he died. He was the biggest idol in my life and influenced me hugely.
An actor. When I was really young, I wanted to be a fishmonger’s wife.
I went to a funeral where they played Cheek To Cheek: Fred Astaire singing “Heaven. I’m in heaven… ” Everyone smiled. I’d like that.
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