Getting to the end and thinking that I haven’t laughed enough.

Pain. I told Jeffrey that if I have a really bad headache just pull the plug.

Flipping my wig.

Oh, all the time. We have a fear all the time. But that’s what keeps us going, that’s what keeps us focused. You have to have a fear. People who say, “I have no fear. I’m not afraid of ever failing,” are kidding themselves. Sometimes it’s the fear of failure, of not wanting to fail, that makes people as great as they are. I know that’s what pushes me, a lot.

Being a salesgirl in a baby shop where the others said things like, “He’s Jewish, but she’s American.” Also, after college, being a waitress in London, and trying to make change in the old money of shillings and pence.

As someone who left the world around me a little kinder and less hierarchical.

Sometimes when I’m on a plane, as I often am, the weather is rough and we’re worried about going down. I think: If I hold the hand of the person next to me, I’ll be holding everyone’s hand. Like my dear friend, the late Wilma Mankiller, principal chief of the Cherokee Nation, I want to know: I’m going to the other side of the mountain.

First a horse rancher, then a dancer.

I behaved badly with two old lovers. Years later, when I took one to lunch to apologise, it made it worse.

Feeling you want someone else’s welfare as much and sometimes more than your own.