Seeing the future die, from Bobby Kennedy to dear friends.
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Jacqui Smith
British politician
Not getting a part in the school play.
Samira Ahmed
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When I was a 26-year-old news correspondent, the head of BBC news gathering, Chris Cramer, refused to let me take up a six-month attachment on the foreign affairs programme Correspondent. He said: “I think it’s too soon; you could do it later.” He’d never have said that to a man.
Tommy Hilfiger
American fashion designer
My first business, People's Place, went bankrupt in the mid-70s.
Tracey Ullman
British and American actress
Realising as I grew up that people don’t really know what they’re doing.
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In my 30s, I was staring at a pair of expensive boots in a shop window when the photographer Gordon Parks came up behind me. He instantly understood, because he grew up even poorer than me; he made me buy them on my credit card.
Dr Denis Mukwege, because he is to sexualised violence against females what Mandela was to apartheid.
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