What advice would you give your twenty-year-old self, and what should they ignore?
Recorded Ruth Bader Ginsburg said elsewhere, not written here
Having advanced well beyond what the French call "a certain age," I am often asked to convey to younger people helpful advice and counsel. So I will open these remarks with the best advice I ever received. The advice, which I have several times shared with others, was given to me by my mother-in-law on my wedding day. She had a prescription for a happy, enduring marriage: "It pays," she said, "it pays sometimes to be a little deaf."

New York Law School Law Review dinner, on accepting the Froessel Award, New York Law School Law Review (digitalcommons.nyls.edu), 12 February 1999 source ↗

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Jürgen Klopp German football manager; Liverpool 2015–2024
You have to change from doubter to believer.
Recorded Introductory press conference as Liverpool manager, Anfield, October 2015, Sky Sports, 17 May 2024 source ↗
Nora Ephron Journalist, essayist, screenwriter and film director
My advice to everyone is: “Become a journalist.” ... if you have a chance to be a newspaper reporter for three or four years — before you do whatever you want to do — do it, because you will know so much.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview, 21 June 2007 source ↗
David Vélez Co-founder and chief executive of Nubank
Primero, lanzarse, incluso sin tener todas las respuestas. Segundo, tener resiliencia y disciplina, porque los mercados son volátiles. Tercero, buscar grandes problemas del consumidor. Muchas oportunidades nacen de la frustración.
Recorded Alejandra Rico Muñoz, interview, La República, 25 March 2026 source ↗
Werner Herzog Film director, screenwriter and opera director
No. Go for it, as I did it. Go for all the mistakes. I made so many mistakes in doing my films. They all have a stutter or a limp or they are squint-eyed. Hardly anyone notices it, but I notice. Make your mistakes. Get arrested if you trespass. Yes. Do it. There’s nothing wrong with spending a night or two in jail. I’ve done that. Don’t be afraid of the grizzly bear behind you. Travel on foot. Read books.
Recorded Rolling Stone, Rolling Stone, 'The Last Word' interview, 1 January 2020 source ↗

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Question What is the best advice you have ever received? Time & hindsight
My mother-in-law’s advice, which she gave me on the day of our wedding — we were married in Marty’s home, and his mother took me into the bedroom, her bedroom and said, “Dear, I’d like to tell you the secret of a happy marriage.” “Yes. What is the secret?” “It helps sometimes to be a little deaf.” And I found that advice — it stood me in very good stead not only in a wonderful marriage that lasted well over half a century, but in every workplace I’ve served, dealing with my faculty colleagues when I was a law teacher, and even now with my colleagues on the Supreme Court. When an unkind word is said, a thoughtless word, best to tune out.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview, Washington, D.C., 14 July 2016 source ↗
Question What are you most proud of? Identity & self
I was fortunate to be born at the right time and to be in the right place when the Women’s Movement came alive. So many things were wrong with the way life was ordered in the ’70s. In many states, women didn’t serve on juries, to take just one example, and there were so many jobs that were off limits to women. People began to realize there was something wrong about that, and women should be free to aspire and achieve just as men are. So I had legal education, and I could use that education to help move this movement for change, for allowing women to realize their full potential, help move that along. So it was that ten years of my life that I devoted to litigating cases about — I don’t say women’s rights — I say the constitutional principle of the equal citizenship stature of men and women. I was tremendously fortunate to be able to participate in that movement for change.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview, Washington, D.C., 14 July 2016 source ↗
Question What is the thing you are best at that nobody watching can see? Craft & work
I have followed that advice - with, I confess, occasional lapses not only at home, but in the places I have worked, even in relating to my colleagues at the Supreme Court. It is important to be a good listener if you are to work with others effectively, but it also pays, sometimes, to be a little deaf - for example, in my current position, when a colleague, academic commentator, or journalist writes that an opinion on which I labored endless hours, worrying over every word, is "sloppy," "smug," "strange," or "profoundly misguided." I am making none of those up.
Recorded New York Law School Law Review dinner, New York Law School Law Review (digitalcommons.nyls.edu), 12 February 1999 source ↗

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