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Edward Bond, the playwright, said I was like a turd flowing on the effluent of British culture.
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View all 122 →The music journalist Paul Morley described me as bland.
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'Excuse me, madam, you have a thong hanging out of your handbag.'
In school, I was 11, and we had to paint a picture of family life. My painting was held up to the class and I was told it looked like a spider with ink on its feet had walked across the page. It was done so viciously – humiliating.
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View profile →To my father, who was aggressively indifferent to what I was doing. He did say sorry to me when he was dying and I don’t think I was very gracious.
The rest is silence.
At university in the 60s, I thought social justice was going to improve exponentially. How wrong I was.
In despair, because of my wife’s illness.
Curious, energetic, droll.
Isn’t it enough just to be remembered?
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