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The people I never thanked for what they selflessly gave me in my career; when I was younger I just took it for granted.
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To my grandma Faye, because I didn’t realise, when I was growing up, what an icon she was. She fought at Cable Street, and worked her arse off to get the family out of the tenements. She had a lot of wisdom to impart.
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Everybody, now and before, who was fleeing for their lives and wasn’t allowed into our country.
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An actress. My family thought it was ridiculous, it was like saying you wanted to be an astronaut.
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