People not remembering who I am.
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Which trait do you most dislike in yourself?
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Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?
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Lack of empathy and compassion.
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View all 198 →Serially telling endless boring jokes and sexism and racism and homophobia (they often go together).
People who think they’re always right.
Being untruthful.
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View profile →My default will always be to go for the worst-case scenario and that is something that I am unlearning.
I would like to believe that you reunite with the people you love the most.
My father because I was 12 when he passed and I blamed him for everything in my parents’ marriage. Now I realise he did the best he could and was just figuring life out like everybody else.
When my trousers split on stage in Burn the Floor in Australia. I had always been warned to wear my flesh underwear and I did not that day.
Absolutely nothing. It’s a privilege.
As someone who cared boldly about people, stood firmly for what he believed in and lifted others when they needed help.
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