As a decent human being.
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Originally asked
Vogue, to one guest at a time, on camera, 73 Questions
A recurring legacy prompt in Vogue's 73 Questions, appearing with only minor wording changes.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Human, evolving and faithful.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 22 November 2025 source ↗
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Adwoa Aboah
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For persevering, and being a good role model.
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As an actor who happens to be short.
Rosie Jones
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As someone who was happy, silly and went out there, unafraid, and did what she wanted to do.
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View profile →Leaving the stage from a panic attack in my 20s. Hearing the audience angry.
Earnest, driven, Gemini.
I cried last week after talking about marriage equality with my daughters. My oldest let slip that she believed that if the supreme court overturned Obergefell, she wouldn’t have parents any more. I felt angry with my country and ashamed that I didn’t consider the possibility that she might think that.
I’m the happiest right now. I can see that I’m in a kind of sweet spot: my parents are alive, my kids are little, my wife is hot and my body doesn’t hurt.
To kids I bullied in school. I have apologised and I will continue to. To repay those things karmically, I will watch my kids’ hearts like a hawk for signs of hardening or any distortions of empathy that they might develop.
Sacrifice the self and you will gain it. Serve the self and you will lose it.
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