Sacrifice the self and you will gain it. Serve the self and you will lose it.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 22 November 2025 source ↗
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Sacrifice the self and you will gain it. Serve the self and you will lose it.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 22 November 2025 source ↗
That materialistic things will not make you happy.
Of the sweets of adversity, and let me say that these are not numerous, I have found the sweetest, the most precious of all, is the lesson I learnt on the value of kindness.
Yes. I'm not unhappy about becoming old. I'm not unhappy about what must be. It makes me cry only when I see my friends go before me and life is emptied. I don't believe in an afterlife, but I still fully expect to see my brother again. ... But, you know, there's something I'm finding out as I'm aging that I am in love with the world. And I look right now, as we speak together, out my window in my studio and I see my trees and my beautiful, beautiful maples that are hundreds of years old, they're beautiful. And you see I can see how beautiful they are. I can take time to see how beautiful they are. It is a blessing to get old. It is a blessing to find the time to do the things, to read the books, to listen to the music.
Want for your brothers and sisters what you want for yourself.
A lifelong sleepover.
I love you but I hate your lifestyle.
I’m not thrilled with my lack of commitment to feminism in my 20s.
To kids I bullied in school. I have apologised and I will continue to. To repay those things karmically, I will watch my kids’ hearts like a hawk for signs of hardening or any distortions of empathy that they might develop.
Leaving the stage from a panic attack in my 20s. Hearing the audience angry.
Human, evolving and faithful.
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