Judy Murray
Scottish tennis coach
When I was 17, I was offered a tennis scholarship at the University of Virginia. I wish I had been brave enough to take it.
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I’m not thrilled with my lack of commitment to feminism in my 20s.
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Lauren Laverne
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It would have been lovely to have grown up in private like a lot of my friends.
Harlan Coben
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I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but if I could go back and fix the mistake, I wouldn’t be here.
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View profile →Leaving the stage from a panic attack in my 20s. Hearing the audience angry.
Greed, lack of empathy. Same thing.
Sacrifice the self and you will gain it. Serve the self and you will lose it.
I cried last week after talking about marriage equality with my daughters. My oldest let slip that she believed that if the supreme court overturned Obergefell, she wouldn’t have parents any more. I felt angry with my country and ashamed that I didn’t consider the possibility that she might think that.
Human, evolving and faithful.
To kids I bullied in school. I have apologised and I will continue to. To repay those things karmically, I will watch my kids’ hearts like a hawk for signs of hardening or any distortions of empathy that they might develop.
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