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My brother Pete passing on in 2005.
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Zoë Heller
English journalist and novelist
Failing CSE Physics. Twice.
Jenny Agutter
English actress
When I was 14 I went up for Juliet with Zeffirelli and I was hugely disappointed that I didn’t get that.
The years I lost trying to fix my second marriage.
Jason Isaacs
English actor
That we waited so long to have children, we only have two.
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View profile →I’d have stuck with the original Dexys Midnight Runners look we started in 1978, which became known as the New Romantic look a couple of years later. Our management and record label talked us out of it. Later, Duran Duran and Spandau came out with that look and that made us look old-fashioned.
Shakespeare said, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” – I think that’s true.
I worked in the stores of Edgware hospital when I was about 17, and it was grey and depressing.
On stage – the Old Vic in 1981 and Glastonbury last year.
The contentment I have now.
Gerry Adams, because he’s got incredible integrity and vision, and he’s had to put up with so much flak.
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