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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Novelist and essayist

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All over the world, girls are raised to be make themselves likeable, to twist themselves into shapes that suit other people. Please do not twist yourself into shapes to please. Don’t do it. If someone likes that version of you, that version of you that is false and holds back, then they actually just like that twisted shape, and not you.

Wellesley College 137th Commencement, 29 May 2015 source ↗

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Denton Cooley Cardiothoracic surgeon; founder of the Texas Heart Institute
You have to be intelligent, and be able to cope with stress. It is a stressful life, both mentally and physically. Those are the qualities to succeed as a surgeon.
Recorded Academy of Achievement recorded interview, American Academy of Achievement, 11 April 1991 source ↗
Tim Cook Chief executive of Apple
Fearlessness means taking the first step, even if you don't know where it will take you. It means being driven by a higher purpose rather than by applause.”
Recorded Duke University Commencement, Duke Today, 13 May 2018 source ↗
Ellen Johnson Sirleaf President of Liberia, 2006–2018
So I urge my sisters, and my brothers, not to be afraid. Be not afraid to denounce injustice, though you may be outnumbered. Be not afraid to seek peace, even if your voice may be small. Be not afraid to demand peace.
Recorded Oslo City Hall, The Nobel Foundation, 10 December 2011 source ↗
Frederick W. Smith Founder and long-serving chairman of FedEx Corporation
The most important piece of advice that I could give them is to take advantage of the tremendous reservoir of knowledge that’s out there today. Spend some time learning how the world has evolved. There are a lot of good lessons in history, and other peoples’ experiences in the past, that could be exactly the solution to the problem you’re looking for.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview, 23 May 1998 source ↗

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Question In the last five years, what have you become better at saying no to? Daily life
To get this prize, I was required to talk about how important a particular European feminist woman writer had been to me. Now the truth was that I had never managed to finish this feminist writer’s book. It did not speak to me. It would have been a lie to claim that she had any major influence on my thinking. […] I could have said that this woman was important to me, and I could have talked the talk, and I could have been given the prize and a shiny present. But I didn’t.
Recorded Wellesley College 137th Commencement, 29 May 2015 source ↗
Question How has a setback or failure set you up for later success? Failure & regret
But after one year of medical school I fled. I realized I would be a very unhappy doctor and I really did not want to be responsible for the inadvertent death of my patients. Leaving medical school was a very unusual decision, especially in Nigeria where it is very difficult to get into medical school. Later, people told me that it had been very courageous of me, but I did not feel courageous at all. What I felt then was not courage but a desire to make an effort. To try.
Recorded Wellesley College 137th Commencement, 29 May 2015 source ↗

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